You are slowly getting used to your ring and may have bought and flicked through your first bridal magazine. Every time you tell someone that you’re going to get married, they ask you a lot of questions that haven’t really occurred to you because your Big Day is still months away.There certainly is no need to immediately transform into bridezilla, focussing all your free time (and the odd quiet hour at work) on perfecting your wedding board on Pinterest and having your whole wedding planned out a week after your beloved went down on his knee.

Still, there are a few things you may want to discuss with your partner in time.

Also, if you have your mind set on a particular photographer/ band/ venue, it’s a good idea to inquire about their availability early on.

We started on the following:

• Date
• Venue – This will depend on the number of people you’re planning on inviting and vice versa
• Catering/ kind of food – We agreed on an all-vegan buffet-style dinner and exclusively non-alcoholic drinks
• DJ
• Photographer – We wrote emails to a handful of photographers whose pictures we both adore. Despite sending out those emails 13 months before our wedding, one photographer already had a booking for our wedding date.

Now that we’ve more or less covered the basics (and know what they will cost us), our next steps will be to create a budget and some kind of decoration scheme.

Since we spontaneously completely turned around our already agreed-on colour scheme over dinner the other night, this is going to be extra-interesting.

Once we’ve got that down, there will be save-the-dates to send (electronically, from our wedding email address) and slowly the crafting will commence.

Over Christmas I’m planning on setting up a simple website and then it will already be time for sending out invitations.

Oh – let’s not forget that -, I’m having my first appointment regarding a dress next Saturday.

You see, there will rarely be “too much time” nor will the wedding be “still too far away” (unless it’s more than, say 24 months in the future). The earlier you start on the essentials, the more relaxed you’re going to be when your Big Day comes closer.

At least that’s what I like to think now.

One word to “exhausting” friends and relatives that give you the “oh, that’s how you’re going to do it? I did/ would do it completely differently”:

It is your wedding. Yours and yours alone.

There are exactly two persons who are going to decide how it’s going to happen: yourself and your significant other.

If you want to get married Star Wars-style, go ahead.

If you’ve been dreaming of having a breakfast-themed party with cheerios and pancakes, it’s your day.

If you can’t stand the mere idea of throwing a big party that may throw you off budget for the next year, by all means elope.

Thus said, have fun!

Do you have any piece of advice? Anything I’m forgetting? Am I completely off the mark? Kindly share your tips and insight in the comments below, on Facebook or via Instagram!

 

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